Sub Titles: How to call your submissive partner in BDSM

In BDSM, we love to give Doms and subs titles and kinky names to call each other.

They’re especially fun to call when they have been extra naughty. 😏 However, it’s not always easy to find just the right one without sounding off.

Here, we have collected the best titles and names to give the submissive partner in your dynamic!

The best sub titles in BDSM

Without further ado, here are the most common nicknames, titles, and descriptions to give your submissive partner during a scene or in general.

Sub(missive)

“Submissive” or “sub” (with a lower case s of course) is perhaps the most common term used for the…well, submissive part of a scene or dynamic.

It’s often used as a description or title, however, not many Doms or Tops use it when addressing their partners directly.

Naughty rating: 3/10

Slave

In some BDSM relationships, the submissive person may prefer to be referred to as a “slave.” It’s often associated with Total Power Exchange (TPE) relationships or Master-slave dynamics, in which the submissive person gives complete control to their dominant partner.

Interestingly, slave is often more common as a direct call than sub and you will hear quite a few masters directly call for their slaves as such.

Naughty rating: 5/10

Pet

Some submissives may be referred to as “pets,” often as part of pet play, a form of role-play where the submissive takes on the role of a pet animal. This can involve elements of care and nurturing alongside domination and submission.

Naughty rating: 7/10

Fucktoy

A little higher up on the naughty scale is “fucktoy” and similar titles. While not exclusive to BDSM, they are very common both in the kinky and swinger community.

If you’re not into dirty talk, this one isn’t for you obviously. However, many submissives go wild being called names like this and it is a great way to get into the “degrading” kink.

Naughty ranking: 9/10

Little / Little One

“Little” or “little one” is often used in the context of age play, where the submissive takes on a younger role, often child-like in nature. This can be part of a Daddy/little relationship, where the dominant partner takes on a caregiver or parent-like role.

There is a lot of intimacy involved in using this as a title and also great to fulfill any praising kink your submissive might have.

Naughty ranking: 3/10

Good girl / Daddy’s girl / Baby girl

Ahh…another classic. Hearing “good girl” will send shivers down most submissives’ backs and for many, there is no greater feeling that hearing their Dominant call them this.

Whether it is “good girl”, “baby girl”, “that’s my girl” or any other variation, you can be sure that this one will hit all the right spots!

Naughty ranking: 7/10

Sissy

“Sissy” is very common in female-led relationships (FLR) and in feminization or sissification play where typically a male submissive is feminized by their dominant partner. This can involve dressing up in traditionally female clothes, being given a feminine name, and being made to perform traditionally female tasks or roles.

Sissy is much more degrading than most other titles on this list but in most dungeons around the world, you can be sure to hear it at least once at every party.

Naughty rating: 8/10

Other Dominant titles in BDSM

While the ones above are the most common and arguably the coolest ones, here are some others you might find interesting:

• Princess
• Kitten
• Property
• Cumslut
• Brat
• Whore
• Slut
• Cum dump
• Thing / It
• Subby
• Boy
• Baby doll
• …

As you see, the list is endless and there are countless more names and titles you can give your submissive.

Of course, I also posted a list of dom titles for inspiration!

How to find the perfect title for the submissive

The easiest way to find the perfect naughty nickname for a submissive is to ask them what they like to be called and use that. You can also use one of the common terms used in the BDSM community or pick a name that you both connect something with.

Most Dominants will have nicknames for their submissives that they will use anyway. Just be sure to ask for consent first, before going into the more degrading ones.

If you are still looking for one, use one of the names above for inspiration or look for even more suggestions.

You can also pick a title and use it for a while and change it if you feel like something else would fit better.

Do I need to use a nickname for my submissive?

No! You don’t need to use any special title, term, or name for your submissive at all. As long as all partners are comfortable with it, you may just use their real name, or a pet name for each other.

It seems like every BDSM and kinky forum is full of threads like “I don’t know how to call my submissive partner“, or “I don’t feel comfortable when my Dominant calls me XYZ“.

Let’s make it super clear one more time:

Not wanting to use degrading nicknames is also NOT a sign of lacking dominant or submissive skills, and simply the fact that you don’t want to use a title.

A title is only worth as much as it means to everyone involved and there is no use in using a title if you don’t believe in its meaning and significance.

Stay kinky!