The best BDSM Christmas Gifts in 2024 for every Budget

If you’re trying to make a kinkster happy this year, it’s time to find some cool BDSM Christmas gifts for 2024. Because we all know, it’s never too early to start looking!

As long as you put some thought into it, the other person will always appreciate what you bring. But you don’t want to buy them a new whip if they cannot stand impact play, or come up with a cute fox tail plug if anal is a no-go for them.

The best BDSM Christmas gifts should fit the person’s favorite kinks, be safe to use in kinky play, make their kinky life more fun, and be personal if possible.

There are many grift gift options out there from spanking tools to sex toys, kinky accessories, and lingerie. This can make it hard – especially if you are new to the scene – to find the right kinky gifts at a decent cost. That’s why we’ve tested A LOT of them so you can make a good decision on which gifts to purchase for your kinky friends and partners.

Here is our list of the best BDSM Christmas gifts in 2024 with suggestions for any budget.

The 10 best BDSM Christmas Gifts in 2024

These are the BDSM Christmas gifts in 2024 for every budget:

Kinky Advent Calendar

Advent calendars are very popular, especially in Europe, and count down the days from December 1 until Christmas with little gifts the person can open each day.

A kinky advent calendar is an amazing gift for BDSM and kink lovers, as you can show them your affection throughout the weeks up to Christmas. The best part is that you are free to choose what to put into the calendar.

For example, you could go for one filled for you:

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The Lovehoney Calendar is a great option filled to the brim with goodies. Vibrators, nipple clamps, plugs, cuffs, and more and it’s all in black, white, and purple! 😻

It’s mainly geared toward women or couples, but if you want to give your guy a little notch into the direction you want your next kinky session to go…there is plenty to get excited about. 😉

If you are more of a do-it-yourself kind of person, why not grab a fabric advent calendar like the one below and turn it into something kinky?

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You get 24 little fabric pockets that you can fill yourself. They are big enough to fit small gifts like cock rings, small vibrators, nipple clamps, condoms, or plugs. We also like to fill ours with little paper notes or vouchers such as “free BJ” or “Get out of your punishment free”. You get the idea. There is no limit to your creativity so go crazy, if you like!!

If you need some inspiration on what else to put in, we have some good recommendations for cheap BDSM toys.

Spanking Toys

Whether you’re into just light spankings or intense impact play, spanking toys like whips, canes, or paddles make for super sexy gifts! What makes them so great is that you can not only gift them to your partner or yourself but also to other kinksters that you might not engage with sexually without it looking too assuming.

The Venesun spanking paddle looks sexy and comes in different variations. It’s a beginner’s toy but that also makes it a great BDSM Christmas gift!

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The paddle is surprisingly sturdy and leaves some nice marks during impact play. Since it’s leather it will not be the quietest toy in your arsenal, but unlike others, there are no loud flaps. This makes it suitable for play when you have to keep the noise level down.

Doms will probably go for the “slut” slogan but our ladies thought the kitty one is much cuter! 😻

Rekink Riding Crop

We love riding crops for spanking and the Rekink Riding Crop is a great inexpensive one that won’t break the bank!

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The crop is of good quality, leaves some nice marks, and is easy to handle. It allows for pretty precise whacks and you don’t have the constant feeling it will break in half on the next one. 😁

It’s also perfect for Christmas if you think your partner didn’t behave as well this year and might be in for a little spanking…😉

Sex Toys

Gifting sex toys is an all-time classic that somehow never gets old. You can spend as much or as little as you like on them and there is something for every budget!

For guys, we like the EINSEO pocket pussy a lot:

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It’s an automatic masturbator for men that stands out for its enormous pleasure factor! It offers different settings and vibration intensities so you can customize your (or your partner’s) pleasure journey as you like.

We especially like that it’s rechargeable and doesn’t require batteries and it can easily be cleaned with water. Yes, it’s completely watertight. Whereas other masturbators come apart after a while, we never had any issues with this one and it works just as well now as it did on the day we unpacked it.

For women, there are of course hundreds of opinions. However, we think every BDSM lover should own at least one magic wand!

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Our pick goes to the Vibratex Magic Wand which comes at a great price-value ratio and will give your sub really intense orgasms!

It’s rechargeable and the soft silicone feels really smooth on the skin. The pleasure it gives is great, but if you’re kinky like us…you can also use it to really make your sub squirm! From lengthy edging sessions, to orgasm denial, or super crazy forced orgasms, you will find something to love about the Vibratex Magic Wand.

Let us know how it went! 😁

New Rope

As BDSM lovers we can never have enough rope.

It’s a universal gift that is always useful and won’t stay in the box untouched forever.

Before you buy rope, however, remember there are some people who have practiced shibari and other bondage art forms for years and have VERY specific requirements to the type of rope they use. In that case, you might want to get something else for them.

Here is a beginner bondage set that includes four sections of 10m/32ft rope in different colors:

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The ropes are soft and feel nice, but please don’t pull them too tightly. They are great for BDSM lovers and kinksters of all levels, and also look pretty cool under a Christmas tree. Or you could just tie your partner up and use them as your own special Christmas tree…well, we don’t judge!

Sexy photoshoot

An erotic photoshoot is an amazing Christmas gift not just for BDSM aficionados but all kinksters, swingers, couples, and even friends.

It’s best if you make it into some kind of voucher so you don’t have to pay in advance. Maybe they already know a photographer they like, otherwise, you can just look online for one in your area. Online dating portals are also a great way to find a photographer.

Whether you gift it to the person as a solo or couple (or group) shoot is of course up to you!

Lingerie & BDSM outfits

Lingerie is a classic Christmas gift, but this year you could up it a bit and get your partner, Dom, or sub a hot BDSM outfit.

If you go for special materials like leather or latex please make sure the other person doesn’t get skin irritations from it. Here are some suggestions we have found:

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BDSM Books or Movies

Sure, books for Christmas aren’t really super exciting. However, have you ever bought them a kinky or BDSM book?

There are of course some classics like 50 Shades of Grey or the Submissive’s Guide to BDSM that you should check out.

But there are also other great options. If you want to see all our suggestions, check out our list of the 10 best BDSM books in 2024.

If they prefer movies, here is our list of the best BDSM movies that they might not have seen, yet.

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Fetish Items

If you know the other person is into a specific fetish, this can be a great source of inspiration for your Christmas gifts! Fetishes can be REALLY specific, so you should definitely already know what they are into.

If you don’t you might first want to find out. You don’t want to show up with a bunch of worn socks thinking they have a feet fetish…when in reality they love nothing more than to cover themselves in dozens of toy rubber ducks. 😅

Check out our list of fetishes if you are unsure about some terms, or check out our big guide to fetishes.

New Collar

If you are a Dom and want to gift your sub something super special, then a collar is definitely something you should consider.

There are dozens of different types of collars, and you probably already know what you’re looking for. We especially love the ones with engravings or custom-made ones, but they can quickly become expensive.

However, if you are new to the scene and want to start with something classic, here are two options we recommend:

Which looks nice and is easy to put on and off.

Alternatively, the next one has a leash that comes with it:

There are many options to choose from and you can just pick what you like the most!

Restraints

Restraints come in all sizes and shapes and can be applied to nearly every body part. From cuffs to harnesses, or metal restraints, you can literally find anything.

Spreader bars are a must-have for every kinky toy collection and the KBYHZ spreader bar is one of our favorite BDSM tools. As such, it also makes for a perfect BDSM Christmas gift.

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It comes in two versions, a black one that has to be put together (it’s easy though) and a silver one as a classic one-bar design. The latter also includes some rope and extra cuffs and is well worth the ~$10 extra you pay for it.

You can easily adjust the width and you are free to add or remove cuffs as you like. Speaking of cuffs, they are surprisingly well-made and don’t come off easily. The spreader bar’s D-rings allow you to attach ropes and other cuffs as you like without coming apart.

Conclusion and Tips

This concludes our list of the best BDSM Christmas gifts and we hope it gave you some inspiration on what to get your partners, kinky lovers, and friends.

If you are worried about receiving these items in the mail, don’t worry. All of them come in very discreet packaging and without embarrassing labels. 😊

If you have any questions or even better suggestions for kinky gifts for the holidays, leave them in the comments below!