Best BDSM Blogs & Websites 2024

Most people who start out with BDSM will eventually look for information and inspiration online. However, finding the best BDSM blogs & websites (that aren’t adult entertainment sites) is difficult.

Just typing “BDSM” into your search engine will usually give you very poor results either from mainstream media with little knowledge of the topic or above mentioned NSFW sites.

Therefore, we compiled the best BDSM blogs & websites 2024 into one comprehensive list so you can skip searching for them.

SexualAlpha

Sex toy reviews and guides

SexualAlpha is one of the largest SexEd and lifestyle sites in the world and has been featured in many mainstream media over the years. With their gorgeous design, it makes reading and watching their content so much more enjoyable than many others.

The site covers mostly sex toys and reviews, but also includes many BDSM and kink-related articles.

While it is clear that the main focus lies on general sexual education and lifestyle, be sure to check out their content if you are into kink!

Visit their website: sexualalpha.com

Hellucifer

Guides, articles & reviews about BDSM, kink, polyamory & lifestyle in one place

We might be biased, but of course, we think our site is among the best out there!

In contrast to all other sites on this list, we focus on a number of different topics, not limited to BDSM.

Whether you are new to all of this or have long experience with the kinky lifestyle, you will definitely find something interesting on our site.

TheDuchy

High-quality bondage & shibari tutorials

TheDuchy is a site that’s entirely focused on the bondage part of BDSM. From in-depth tutorials about different knots and ties to safety tips for bondage and even in-person classes…whatever you’re looking for, you can find it here.

What stands out most is the high quality of their resources. Each tutorial includes all the steps to achieve the specific tie, each with its own videos, photos, and text descriptions. Even if you have no prior experience in bondage or shibari, you will have no problems following along.

In contrast to tutorials on YouTube and elsewhere, all tutorials are demonstrated on an actual person (called a rope bunny) instead of inanimate objects.

The site is NSFW (not safe for work), however, displays of nudity are rare and mostly come from member submissions.

The site has changed quite a bit over the years and many of their tutorials now require a membership. However, you can still find lots of helpful resources without having to pay for them.

Visit their website: theduchy.com

KinkLovers

Kink resources & articles

Kinklovers covers BDSM and kinky lifestyle in general and does so in short, easy-to-digest articles and blog posts

The site been around since 2012, however, most of its content is updated super frequently. It is maintained by a team of editors and looks nice and inviting.

As said above, content is often on the shorter side and some might find them to be a good start but not deep enough. However, they also have great guides and resources for those who need more in-depth information.

Visit their website: kinklovers.com

Submissive Guide

BDSM from a submissive’s perspective

If you have dabbled in the world of BDSM, especially Dominance & submission, chances are you have come across Submissive Guide at least once.

It is one of the oldest and longest-running Ds-related websites out there and one of the few that’s still very much run like a personal blog. You can find articles, opinions, and stories from the author’s own BDSM experiences that feel super relatable and are fun to read.

Yes, the website looks very dated and some of the advice is very subjective. However, you will still find loads of information and food for thought.

Visit their website: submissiveguide.com

Additional Tips

Here are some additional tips on finding other great blogs and websites about BDSM, kinky lifestyle, and so on.

Ensure the website is credible and doesn’t give spammy vibes

We all know those spammy, ad-plastered sites that just scream “malware”. Reputable BDSM sites and blogs don’t need to rely on fishy tactics but good, valuable content.

Don’t use porn websites to “learn” about BDSM

Adult entertainment websites are exactly that: Entertainment. Absolutely nothing wrong with that but don’t fall into the trap of thinking this is how it’s done.

Look for sites that offer more than just videos as those usually have an editorial team or writer behind them.

Opinions are not facts

Just because one site says it is done this way or that way, this does not mean it has to be so. Especially when reading or watching personal opinion pieces, take them with a grain of salt.

When it comes to kink and lifestyle, many people have very strong opinions and like to express them as such.

Have fun

Remember BDSM, polyamory, or kink are not exact sciences but means to enjoy life a bit more.

Have fun and don’t take everything you find online too seriously.